Kids and sexuality — those words strike fear into the hearts of many parents. But talking to kids about sex is an important part of parenting. Children and teens get a lot of information from peers and media sources, so they need your guidance to help them make healthy and appropriate decisions about their sexual behavior.
When it comes to talking to kids about sex, there's no standard script. Your decision to educate your children about sexuality will likely be based on the child's maturity, as well as your personal goals and values.
Look for everyday opportunities and let your child set the pace with his or her questions. As your child matures, you can provide more-detailed responses.
It's normal to feel uncomfortable when talking to kids about sex. But by providing accurate and open communication, you increase the odds that your child will understand your values and make appropriate choices about sex.
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