I'm a 29-year-old woman, and I don't have orgasms with vaginal penetration during sex. Is this unusual?

Answer From Tatnai Burnett, M.D.

No. Although some women experience orgasm with vaginal penetration during sex, most women are orgasmic only during stimulation of the clitoris.

Differences in how women and men experience orgasms can lead to unrealistic expectations and a misinterpretation of the meaning of sexual response.

Effectively communicating with your partner to identify what you want in a sexual relationship can be a challenge. But it's important to be open with your partner. Talk about your differences, so that you can learn about what each of you wants and needs from the relationship.

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Tatnai Burnett, M.D.

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