Pregnancy and you blog

Dad-to-be? Take center stage!

By Mary M. Murry, R.N., C.N.M. February 12, 2013

I was talking to my husband about my blog. He wanted to know if I'd ever written anything for expectant fathers — and I had to admit that I hadn't written much. It got me thinking about how little support there is for a dad-to-be.

Moms are given center stage in the drama of pregnancy and birth. Dads are co-stars and sometimes even bit players.

Still, sometimes a dad-to-be needs to be given center stage. A dad is becoming a parent, too, and men don't have nearly the amount of support and education that women do.

A dad-to-be might worry about not getting enough time with the baby or with mom, or about being pushed aside by the women in his life. He might be concerned about what kind of father he'll be, especially if he doesn't have a strong role model.

If you're a dad-to-be, look for mentors — men who've had babies, who know what it's like, who can help you through it.

If you're concerned about a dad-to-be, recognize his support and contributions. Show your appreciation for his efforts. Ask about his hopes, fears and concerns for the birth and all that comes after.

Dads, please share some helpful hints with us all.

Feb. 12, 2013