How to share the load
Alzheimer's is a progressive disease with symptoms that get worse over time. Shouldering the load yourself can diminish the quality of the care you provide. If you're the primary caregiver for your loved one, talk to your family about sharing some of the responsibility.
To prevent caregiver burnout, it's essential to reach out for support, too. Here's help getting started:
- Be realistic. Caregiving is demanding. There's only so much you can do on your own. Asking for help doesn't make you inadequate or selfish.
- Test the waters. Request help. Avoid watering down your request by saying things like, "It's only a thought."
- Suggest specific tasks. Keep a list of ways you need help, so you'll be ready with suggestions if someone offers. Perhaps a neighbor could do yardwork or pick up your groceries. A relative could sort bills or fill out insurance papers. A friend might take your loved one for a daily walk, giving you valuable time to shop, go to appointments and complete other tasks.
- Consider abilities and interests. If a loved one enjoys cooking, ask him or her to help with meal preparation. A neighbor who likes to drive might be able to provide transportation to doctor appointments. A friend who enjoys books might read aloud to your loved one.
You might worry that no one will be willing to help you, but you won't know until you ask. Although some people might say no, most of your friends and loved ones probably want to help, but simply don't know how.
When to seek outside help
If you can't get enough help from your friends and relatives, take advantage of community resources. You might enroll your loved one in an adult day program, both for the social interaction the program will provide your loved one and the caregiving respite it'll provide you. You might also consider working with an agency that provides household help or assistance with daily tasks. Counseling services and support groups also can help you cope with your caregiving duties.
Think of the process of caregiving as a marathon, not a sprint. Marshal your resources and find every bit of assistance available so that you can conserve your strength for the journey. In the long run, you'll be helping your loved one as well as yourself.
Feb. 21, 2017
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- Tips and resources for caregivers. U.S. Centers for Medicare and Medicaid Service. https://www.medicare.gov/campaigns/caregiver/caregiver.html. Accessed Jan. 10, 2017.
- Middle-stage caregiving. Alzheimer's Association. https://www.alz.org/care/alzheimers-mid-moderate-stage-caregiving.asp. Accessed Jan. 10, 2017.