Living with cancer blog

Gratitude for a mother's care and love

By Sheryl M. Ness, R.N. May 10, 2013

In honor of Mother's Day this weekend, I thought we could talk about the important role of mothers in everyone's life.

I have an incredible mom who reads my blog every week. She's my biggest fan. No matter what's happening, she's always there to cheer me on. I'm so lucky to have such a great role model — she taught me so much about caring for others.

As you think about your mother — or the mother figures in your life — what words do you think of? I think of caring, loving, nurturing, kind, strong, constant, empowering and patient.

Consider your own path from diagnosis to treatment and recovery — remember when what you really needed most was the love and kindness of a mother. It might be your mother, a family member, a friend, your partner in life or other survivors who have been where you are and know just what to say and do to make you feel loved and cared for.

Next time you feel that someone is struggling with the emotions and stress of living with cancer — think about the things a mother might do (it's ok for the men too).

Reach out to others with your mothering care by:

  • Making their favorite meal
  • Holding their hand
  • Talking about what's going on in their life
  • Bringing them comfort items — such as homemade cookies, a beautiful plant, a cozy blanket or slippers
  • Playing cards together
  • Inviting them out for a special lunch or outing
  • Going together to a movie or shopping

Some days it's hard to know what to say — so instead show how much you care with kindness and a personal connection. Remember how special it is to feel cared for like a mother would. It's one of the best feelings I've experienced.


Sheryl M. Ness, R.N.

May 10, 2013