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Victim or survivor? It's your choice

By Edward T. Creagan, M.D. October 26, 2011

I want to say how much I appreciate all of the comments people post. They provide a rich tapestry of support and encouragement and practical advice.

It's clear that regardless of the credentials on the wall or position on the organizational chart, life is not always fair. The good guys do not always win. The couple does not always live happily ever after. That's just the way it is.

Everyone has setbacks, disappointments and frustrations. But the way you respond to these challenges and opportunities is what defines you. Whether you become a victim or a "seasoned survivor" depends on your attitude and the way you view the setback.

When faced with an overwhelming crisis, whether personal, spiritual or financial, your circuits can be overloaded. You may feel paralyzed. However, once a little time has passed, you can marshal your options to creatively deal with the problem.

Whatever has happened, you can choose to whine and complain about it, or to profit and learn from the experience. Whining is not only unproductive, it also pushes away your support network. Friends and colleagues will listen for just so long, but then it is time to move on. The choice is yours. Your life depends on it.


Edward T. Creagan, M.D.

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Oct. 26, 2011