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Asking questions that lead to a dead end

By Edward T. Creagan, M.D. February 22, 2012

A colleague recently lost a child, and this tragic event reminded me of the profound sadness in the comments posted here by others who've suffered the loss of a loved one.

The death of a child is devastating and incomprehensible. In addressing the congregation during this difficult time, a beloved pastor said, "If we continue to ask 'why' and 'what if' and to look for logical explanations, we will wind up at a dead end." Going down that road keeps you from finding a new normal and acknowledging that life goes on even though it will never be the same.

Connecting with others who are also struggling with the loss of a loved one can be a profound source of comfort, since only fellow travelers can truly understand the pain and anguish. Reach out and learn from them. No one can do this alone.


Edward T. Creagan, M.D.

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Feb. 22, 2012