Although the comments posted are each different, a recurrent is theme is that of dealing with loss — the loss of a dream, the loss of a relationship, the loss of an opportunity, the loss of health and peace.
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How do we deal with life's losses and move forward? People far wiser than I am say that we never do get back to normal. There's a time of confusion and uncertainty that then merges into a new normal. The longing, disappointment and regret are there, but they become less palpable with time. Let me share with you an example.
A colleague suffered the tragic loss of his daughter about 20 years ago. At odd times, even today, he finds himself going into a funk. He's struck by a profound sadness over what will never be. He will never walk his daughter down the aisle on her wedding day. He will never be a grandfather. He acknowledges that overall his life is good, and the good days outweigh the bad. But out of the blue, he's reminded of the loss by a song, a meal or a comment by a colleague.
So somehow we do heal, but every healing leaves a scar. We must remember that healing is a journey, not a destination or a point in time. It's an evolving process that is never completely over. Idle words or can you relate to some of these observations? Please weigh in.
Jan. 18, 2012