Pregnancy and you blog

Revisiting pregnancy loss

By Mary M. Murry, R.N., C.N.M. August 20, 2009

I'm so glad that women are using this blog as a place to share their sorrow and pain regarding pregnancy loss. It's proof that you're never alone and there are others who've been where you are now.

I've been thinking a lot lately about the loss of a baby, especially from a miscarriage. During Victorian times, photographs of the dead and other tokens — such as a locket containing a loved one's hair — often served as tangible reminders of lost loved ones. With miscarriage, however, there's often no tangible reminder. Sometimes all you're left with is the knowledge that there was a baby and his or her existence made a difference in your life. In some cases, though, you may be offered a token or memento from a lost pregnancy. If you're offered such a gift, take it — even if at the time you don't want to see anything that would remind you of your loss. Perhaps someday the memento will bring you a sense of healing or peace.

The journey of healing from pregnancy loss may be short or it may seem never-ending. Let others reach out to you. If given the chance, reach out to others. You don't have to do this alone.

Aug. 20, 2009