Coping and support

By Mayo Clinic Staff

After losing a baby to SIDS, getting emotional support is critical. You may feel guilt as well as grief, and you'll be dealing with the mandatory police investigation into cause of death. You may find it comforting to talk to other parents whose lives have been touched by SIDS.

Your doctor may be able to recommend a support group in your area, or you can visit an online SIDS chat room. Talking to a trusted friend, counselor or clergy member may also help.

Communicate your feelings

If you can, let friends and family know how you're feeling. People want to help, but they may not know how to approach you.

As the baby's parents, be as open as possible with each other. Losing a child can put a terrible strain on a marriage. Counseling may help some couples understand and express their feelings.

Allow time for healing

Finally, give yourself time to grieve. Don't worry if you find yourself crying unexpectedly, if holidays and other celebratory times are especially difficult, or if you're tired and drained much of the time.

You're dealing with a devastating loss. Healing takes time.

Oct. 28, 2016