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Friends or family members often ask us how they can help a loved one who has diabetes to make lifestyle changes. With a husband who has type 2 diabetes and two sons who have type 1 diabetes, I know that there's a lot to learn about living well with diabetes on a personal level. Diabetes is a hard disease to handle alone.
Here are some ways that you can support your friend or loved one.
I've also found that lifestyle changes that are good for a person who has diabetes are also beneficial to the rest of the family. For example:
Being the primary caregiver for a person who has diabetes can take an emotional toll. A diabetes caregiver may be the one taking ownership of his or her loved one's diabetes if the person with diabetes doesn't or can't. If you find it's too much for you, talk with your healthcare provider or diabetes educator. Together, you can determine at what point you may need outside assistance, such as from a nurse.
Nancy Klobassa Davidson, R.N.
Peggy Moreland, R.N.
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Can diabetes make a person angry/hateful?
I wish I'd felt entitled to nagging rights 10 years ago. I might still have a sex life.
I am a 74 year old with diabetes... had it since about 40 years old have 5 injections per day.Always carry with me 2 meusli bars & jelly beans (else U are asking for trouble) real siily to go nowhere with out them. I have them always in mt bag & if I usse one then there is always a spare & I replace A,S.A.P. yes regular meals are essential but @ times this is not always possible. so don't have your injection till your meal is in sight. Some people don't try 2 help themselves..Dr & diabetic clinic say I am VERY organized... & say they try to help but you have to help yourself...
my partner has diabetes type 2 and if he is out and it is near a meal time ,he becomes phyco and abusive. He doesn`t always take a snack to avoid this problem. He also accuses me of arguing with him. He becomes unbearabkle to be with. This is a big problem as I do love him but find it hard to know when we are going to be out late and run into this problem ,as it happens grsaduallly!!
I cannot get anyone to respect the fact that I need to eat at regular times if I take my insulin or pills. Now, if I am going anywhere with family/friends I am afraid to take any medication as my sugar drops so low I get sick when they refuse to stop to feed me or let me go eat. Anyone else have this problem?
I am at my wit's end! My husband, Type 2 diabetic, refused to eat the healthy foods I provide for him. He craves cookies (I no longer bake so I do not tempt him) but he buys cheap cookies and eats handfuls of them daily. He loads up on chips and crackers. I always have healthy alternatives close by, however. My major concern is that he has returned to smoking-heavy smoking. His BGL seems to be elevated by at least 100 points and my question is: how does nicotine affect diabetes and BGL?
My husband has Type 2 and this is very difficult for us. I have never been around someone with this and it is so hard. I find myself feeling so guilty if I happen to cook something I feel is good for him then his blood sugar goes high. I have read until my eyes feel like they are bleeding he really make no effort to learn to much about it as he is so frustrated with it most days. I wish I knew just one person that could help me. I feel like it is much harder on the caregiver than the person with diabetes. Does anyone know of a online source maybe through facebook?
In answer to your question gena. Yes, high blood glucoses can make a person tired and cranky.
Does high blood sugar make person mean and belligerent?
My husand was diagnosed with type 2, 10 years ago. Since then he has divorced me after 40+ years of marriage and married his girlfriend. His temper and bad choices have made our grown children not want anything to do with him. He has changed into someone I don't know, and devstated our family. Is this normal or abnormal thing to do? I am just thinking it is the diabties has affected his brain--or what?
I am at a lose of what to do. My husband was diagnosed in 1992 to have diabetes. He did his insulin shots off and on for about a year and has not gone back to the doctor for his health. I want to help. His symptoms are getting really bad. He won't do anything about his health.
I just read the letter from 02/10/13. Sounds just like my husband!!! I can see he is going downhill....he is only 57. I am just getting frustrated. Thanks for letting me vent also!
My husband, a registered nurse who's mother died from complications of diabetes including blindness and congestive heart failure. In spite of this cautionary tale and his medical background, his approach to his disease has been 'I'd rather eat what I want and die young than live a long life following a diet.' Needless to say, this has left him visually impaired and suffering from multiple other side effects of diabetes. I have tried everything I can think of to get him to become responsible for his health only to be berated and told to mind my own business. After almost losing his foot 2 years ago, he is doing so - so in terms of his health care. However he still doesn't exercise and overdoes his carbohydrate intake. I have little if any respect for him. Because he is overweight and has arthritis in his hip, he can't reach is feet, so I have to check for sores and apply cream -something he never did for himself - even when he could. We are unable to enjoy many of the things that couples our age enjoy because of his physical limitations. Disrespect and resentment are what I feel. Thanks for letting me vent.
I've just moved back (10 days ago) to Texas from Australia to look after my Mother (74) who has just been through a heart procedure two weeks ago for atrial fibrillation. She has Type II diabetes, managed with medication. She's very frail and thin, and has been eating very little. I've gotten her to eat more, as I cook for her and ensure she eats. She just came out of the bedroom after being in bed for about 30 minutes, said she was sweating, and took her sugar reading, which was 44. I gave her OJ, and crackers and peanut butter. I know now that I am going to have to stay here in the house with my parents, as my dad simply doesn't notice whether my mother is eating and drinking enough. She's looked after him for 54 years, and he has no clue how to be her carer and provide the nutrition and care she needs. He's a good man, don't get me wrong, but just old school. It's my job now, to look after both of them. Didn't know I was coming home to this, but it's ok, I'm glad I am here. Thanks for reading.
on monday my docter told me i have diabetes i was upset cause he said it like he didnt care i feel real sad that poor people dodnt matter im poor how am i gona pay for medications medicare dosent pay for crap and medicade is only given to wemon who get pregnant and are single so , im sad my only hope is god thats it im really sad and i cant loose weight cause my legs are num im throwing up everyday
Often there is a rise in the blood glucose early morning after a long period of fasting over night. The reason this this is the liver stores and releases glucose; especially in the early morning hours after a long fast.
I take care of my husband and have a question.
He took his glucose count at 10:00pm and it was 108. In the morning it was 200. Why would it go up without eating?
If you have a resource for me to go to please submit that. Thank you
I take care of my boyfriends mom n she has Alzhiemers n she has type 2 diabites. it is very hard to deal with both of them at the same time. June goes to the doctor alot. i have been doing taking care of June sence last year at this time. cuz she doesnt want to go into a Nursing Home, I can see her point on that one. stay home as long as possible. June has a daughter n son, they both help me out alot, but.... i have so many questions to ask!! But, I know her kids cant answer them, cuz they dont know either.. 1st ? Does diabties make yr lower back ache, like over yr Kidneys? 2nd ? Do u sleep alot?
im sorry im asking to many question at one time. June is type 2.
What numbers are high and what are the low numbers that are bad with diabetes?
This is a reply to Ingrid. I hope that she checks back to read replys. I would like to tell her to stay positive and calm for your child/children. Show your child with diabetes that eveything will be okay. If she sees fear in you she will be fearful. She will look to you for assurance. Please check for insurance in you state that covers children and their medical/prescription needs. At least the cost of insulin/supplies for the most part completely /partially covered. In Penssylvania the offer Pa Chip. which covers all kids regardless of income. their are guidelines of course. It does get better when you get through the beginning stuff and get organized. I do know how you feel I have a ten year old daughter with Type 1. Stay strong,get to know the laws in your state for diabetes care in the school setting - make sure she is medically safe while at school. You are her best advocate!
Keep doctor's appts. and test blood sugars when your suppossed to. Please stay strong - I know it can be very difficult and frustrating - keep going and teach/show your daughter she can have a happy, normal life while living with diabetes. Let her know you are their for her - you are going through this together and you are not going anywhere!
Best of everything! Stay informed.
Best of Luck - stay informed!
My husband is a type 1 diabetic and he has low blood sugar attacks. When he has the low blood sugar attacks and is unable to eat or drink, I put some granulated sugar and soda in a squirt gun, and aim to his lips, after about 4 to 5 squirts on his lips, he starts to be responsive and then he can drink from a cup so his blood sugar is raised in a timely manner.
I thought I would share this idea with
everyone because it has been the best solution for me!
Garima: Check with the International Diabetes Foundation ( http://www.idf.org/). There are links to diabetes associations all over the world. They also have an online diabetes magazine and this month's article is on Type 1 Diabetes: http://www.idf.org/diabetesvoice . Hope this helps!
i m from india,,my younger brother is having diabetes type 1 when he was 17 yrs old..now he is 24..we dont have a proper diabetic association in our country,,can u plz recommend a site wher i can get answers to my queries about his diet,,his insulin injections and montitoring and life style management
My dad is 44 years old and was diagnosed as adult onset of type 1 diabetes about 8 years ago. He has neuropathy and gastroparesis, and a peg (feeding) tube. Last tuesday he had a heart attack, and no one had ever told us that diabetics can have what the doctor called "silent" heart attacks, with few or none of the traditional heart attack symptoms. The only symptoms he had was pain in his neck and upper shoulders, nausea (which isn't unusual for him) and a light pain in his chest only when he moved (sitting to standing, laying down to sitting). I was floored when the doctor said heart attack. He came home this last saturday, and since then I have stayed home from work taking care of him, juggling caring for my house and 10 month old daughter as well. He's very weak, (not that he had much strength before) and can't do much on his own, and is scared to be home alone. His second night home he fell getting up to use the restroom, and at 5 am I was sleeping and couldn't help him. Today we took him to urgent care for extreme swelling all over his body. He had no color in his face, and had gained 28 lbs from water retention. His blood pressure and blood gas were both low. He's been admitted back to the hospital, and now it's the dreaded part that anyone who's cared for an ill loved one knows all to well: the waiting game. Sometime's I don't know how I can be expected to do all of this for him. How are you supposed to watch someone you care for, or in my case, someone who r
slowly die from the inside out. Why is it I can stay strong through the phone calls letting family know how he's doing, talking to doctors and nurses and even to him, but the second I'm alone I break down and cry uncontrollably. Doin't get me wrong, I couldn't imagine trusting anyone else to care for him, and its a burden I'm willing to bear. I just never imagined things getting this bad. When I was 15 and he was diagnosed I remember thinking "Oh, he has diabetes. I guess we'll have to drink diet soda's from now on..." I just never imagined that 8 years later he would be as sick as he is. KEEP YOU'RE LOVED ONES CLOSE! As tough as it is, caring for them is worth every precious second! Best of luck to you all.
I am a divorced mother of five children and my ten year old little girl was just hospitalized and diagnosed with having type 1 diabetes. I had to take a family leave from work with no pay and my ex does not help. It is hard enough for me to cope with my child being sick now I have to worry about how the bills are going to get paid. Since she has been released her sugar has still been high it has gone as high as 530. Can someone please tell me if there is some type of help for mothers who are caring for a ill child.
Sorry but I feel very bitter, I was diagnosed about a month ago.I am over 50 and quite overweight. I am trying to change my lifestyle.
But the shocker is that I have noticed my husband not responding to me or being affectionate anymore and I pinpointed it to my diagnostic announcement. He is mad at me and blames me for the diabetes. How can I cope with that. Frankly I don't think I can forgive his lack of support. We have been married 29 years. I feel so let down.
Monica: Janice has great advice. In addition to her diabetes team check out The Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation (JDRF) (http://www.jdrf.org ). They have an online support group for those with type 1 diabetes and their families. JDRF Kids Online is a special section of the JDRF web site for children with type 1 diabetes and their peers. The site is located at http://kids.jdrf.org. You can share with other parents going through the same thing as your family. Best wishes.
This is a response to Monica whose 3 year old daughter has diabetes.
I've been married to a man that has had diabetes for 45 years. With how far medicine has come along, your little girl will grow and thrive to become a happy woman.
She sounds like such a brave little girl to take her injections as you describe.
I think you will come to adjust to living with diabetes, but for now it must be so scary. If I could offer any words of comfort, it would be to 1)Limit your extended family if they contribute to your stress. This can be done lovingly and respectfully.
and 2)Be calm and accepting for your daughter's sake. She will want to feel "the same as" all of her peers. You will want to instill an attitude of "I can do it" in her as she grows with this disease. It will be OK. I can feel how much you love her through your words. Seek medical advice too.
My almost 86 year old husband has just beedn diagnosed as Prediabetic. Since he is a doulbe amputee and wheelchair bound that lets out walking exercise. How can I help him in the food area? What kind of diet should he be on. His doctore was not specific other than to have him watch dairy products and drink 1 % milk.
My former spouse was alcoholic diabetic,had several incidences of low blood sugars, combative behavior, terrible personality moods and a habit of taking too much insulin as he liked the high it gave him. I cared more about his health than he did. Hence the divorce as I could not live like that. Sad but I had to walk away from 32 yrs of marriage. The alcohol was the problem not the diabetes.
I am 71 ,TYPE 2 was diagnosed back in 1984. I accepted that as a challenge and caring by regular brisk walk 60 minutes not eating but tasting most foods and regular visiting my physcian.
My daughter was diagnosis with type 1 on aug 14 2011 just hours before her 3rd birthday. I have been trying to get an understanding of whats happing but I cant help but feel like im in a bad dream. Diabetes runs in my family, my daughter is the youngest to get it. Everyone else had there on set as adults or after pregancy. I keep trying to figure out was it something I did or did not do. I feel like if I had taken her to the hospital earlire that day maybe it would've been different. I'm afarid to sleep at night because I want to be able to hear her call for me if she needs me.I have to hear and see her breathe. My family has not given me the support I need. Just a lot of drama. They seem not to understand I am scared for my baby...both my babies. They don't listen when I try to explain things, they didnt want to listen when we were in the hopsital. I feel like I want to keep them away. My 3 year is handleing it better than I am. I don't giving her shot but I have to. She tells me it's ok mama..i'm ok mama...she just turn 3 and she hads grown up so fast already. My oldest girl just wont talk about it. I don't want to accept it. This has to be a bad dream my girls a so amazing and I love them with everything thats in me. I feel favored by GOD beacuse he choose me to be their mom. Yet, I ask why do they have to have illnesses? What do I do? I have to give my baby shots 4 times a day. No parent, no person should have to get use to having a illness or sickness. It's not fair
How can I convince my wife to take care of herself with her type I diabetes. She is strong willed, always ran our household and our lives (dominant woman). Since the death of our 25 year old son, all she wants to do is to join him in death. She won't take her insulin, absolutely will not even get into the car to go to doctors, no way will even think of seeing mental health professionals. I am worried our family will end up in jail for violating the Vulnerable Adult Act laws.
Has anyone ever heard of/or know a condition when a person can no longer lift their head. The muscles will not lift it??
My husband has been a Type 1 diabetic for 33 years. We are not old--thought you should know that! He is forgetting lots of things and has a hard time thinking things through. He has never been able to recognize if he is low or high. I always see it before he does. He is on an insulin pump with a sensor that he often does not hear or ignores. The sensor responds later than it should which I know we can change, but he thinks its a nusance so when it goes off and he hears it he figures he has time before he needs to respond. Its getting harder and harder to monitor his highs and lows. He was been in the hospital twice already this year. Any wise words for me? We do see a diabetes educator on a regular basis. But him not recognizing his highs and lows is very hard. We get the mood swings...and I know totally it is the disease---but he doesn't know that at the time its happening!
My husband does not enjoy reading, how do I get him to read at least some of the literature we have obtained. I read it, I tell him what I read, but, I can't read it all. He always tells me, he is a slow reader and it takes him to long to read. Yes, it does take hime longer, but, I can't read it all and tell him all I read. Can you give me some advice. I do read aloud some of the time. Thanks
Zia, sorry to hear about your son's new diagnosis of type 1 diabetes. I would find a diabetes educator in your area who can help train him in diabetes management and life skills. Surf the internet to find the AADE (American Association of Diabetes Educators) for a list of educators in your area.
My son 17 years old, very active, slim, brilliant in study having no symtoms of diabetes at all came to know through test that fasting sugar is 299. Whole family and he himself is stunned. This test was taken as he has applied for a University admission. We do not know how to train him to manage away from home?
Tammy: If you live in the United States there are vulnerable adult laws. Each county in your state has designated a common entry point for reporting incidents of maltreatment or neglect of a vulnerable adult. If you suspect this is the case, it should be reported.
what happens when the legal caregiver doesn't do anything to help your family member(father) to help himself with his diease? and the caregiver would gain finacial stability from the patients death?
My sister (age 59) has had Type 1 diabetes for over 35 years & is dealing with many problems now & we are looking for a short program (ie. 4 days to a week) somewhere in the country that can help her address the complicated issues of long term Type 1 diabetes care. Do you offer any programs either intensive short term out -patient or in-patient?
Dave, what you're describing is called "hypoglycemia unawareness." This is a condition where the body loses the early warning symptoms of low blood glucose (sweating, shakiness, and weakness). The blood glucose continues to drop and if not treated with glucose (sugar) the brain, which needs a constant source of glucose, is affected and the patient will become agitated, confused, difficult to deal with and can pass out. Try not to take her behavior personally, she may not even remember it later. Try to get her to eat carbohydrate and have a glucagon kit just in case she does become unconscious. Talk to your doctor about getting a glucagon kit, it could save her life.
my wife has had type 1 for 4 years. she's 52. When she gets into a low blood sugar state she can be adamant that she does not have low blood sugar, but she will not test and she will not take a glass of juice. How can I get through to her? I start off being nice and ask her to test or take some sugar, but we end up yelling at each other. It's ridiculous. what is the best way to approach this situation?
My husband was diagnosed about a year and a half ago. Eats what he darned well pleases and isn't much concerned about it, despite the fact that his mother lost a leg to diabetes. I've seen a few grumpy days, but I figured they were due to the neverending pain from his back surgery that didn't help much. But at 3:30 in the morning he just went ballistic. I have looked on the web and found mood swings, sometimes violent can occur with diabetes. I WILL be talking to his doctor about it. This one kinda scared me.
What can I do to bring down my sugar if I had a shot of cortisone in my arm? It is 425
Why would it be dangerous for a Type2 brittle diabetic to test his blood sugar levels more than twice a day?
My son 39 found out 4 months ago he has type 1. His wife was helpful at first and now she is making terrible choices and doing things to make him worse. He lives almost an hour from me and I don't know how or what I can do to help him. First I need some help on what he should and shouldn't eat, cause she feeds him whatever and he isn't sure if what he is eating is even the right stuff. She also gets the doc to keep changing his meds, against his objection, and is now so confused. Can I get some help or tell me whom I can call to get some help. Came across this post by accident, but I think I was to see it.
I was diagnosed with Type 2 four years ago. I have found that exercise (walking or cycling 30 to 60 min a day) and drinking plenty of pure water are key to controlling readings. I am 68.
My son, age 4, was recently diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes, and it has really taken a great toll on me, as the primary caregiver. I have read a lot on diabetes now, but this is the first time I read on something that is meant for the caregiver. It is indeed an encouragement! Thank you!
Thank you for recognizing that diabetes can take a great toll on the primary care giver. A "PCG" is often the one on whom the frustrations, angers and other emotional outbursts are focused. After all, we are the ones most available and therefore the frequent targets. You are certainly correct in that we do not have "nagging rights" , but we could use more help and understanding in adapting our lives to the needs of the diabetic!
my boyfriens is a diabete and he is 24 he has it from age 2 now he feels ashamed of his sickness it is not always easy but they need alot of support and love
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