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Think about the times when you've had difficult conversations in your life. Even though it was hard, did you feel a sense of relief and calm after it was over? When we think about having challenging conversations, we often fear a negative outcome. However, most people are surprised at the reaction and sense of empowerment.
As a cancer survivor, you may have already had plenty of experience with difficult conversations. Or maybe you're wondering how to initiate a tough conversation with your family, friends or health care provider.
Here are a few ideas to help you get started:
Having difficult conversations can also be a challenge for your health care provider. In fact, it can be a real barrier. If you feel that you're not getting "straight talk" from your doctor, don't be afraid to bring it up.
You might say something like "help me understand what to expect over the next 6 months to a year." This may open the conversation and may help with your sense of empowerment, reality and feeling of control over your personal situation.
What has helped you when faced with difficult conversations? I'd love to have you share your perspectives.
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Sheryl M. Ness, R.N.
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I was diagnosed with stage 3 w/pos nodes last Feb, with mastectomy and trmt, this May a second and new cancer hit the other breast, stage 1 with mastectomy as well. Recently a third scare, inflammatory breast tissue and scar tissue, never heard of inflammatory tissue has anyone out there heard of it ?
James as an 11 yr 3 time ovarian cancer survivor I thought I'd seen it all, but shortly after my 2nd bought with it my husband decided he wanted out. I would remember that we cannot control what others do to us but we control what we do to ourselves. Its not easy especially if there are children involved. I looked into myself and decided that I was THE person in control of my battle with this disease. I decided as a cancer Warrior we don't have to explain why our spouse chose to leave. THEY chose the action so they must explain. Remember to keep your head up, there are people (family, friends & fellow survivors) who love you & will continue to be there for you and support you. I pray for you & Your Strength through this rough time.
James, I hear your pain, anger and feeling
of abandonment. We cannot control actions
or thoughts of anyone but ourselves. Please
allow those who love you very much (family and friends) to help during this time. Remember you are stronger than you think.
I HAVE A QUESTION FOR YOU. WHAT TO YOU SAY WHEN YOUR WIFE LEAVES YOU BECAUSE OF A BLOOD CANCER....
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